When to Tell You Are Pregnant

So you FINALLY got that Big Fat Positive! Congratulations!

It is a surreal feeling when that little stick finally says, “pregnant”.

Now that you and your significant other have celebrated together and your pregnancy as been officially confirmed, you both have the difficult decision as to when to tell everyone you are pregnant.

Here are a few things most couples take into consideration before they tell family and friends about their pregnancy.

When to Share You Are Pregnant?

When to tell your family and friends you are pregnant is the next big step you will go through if your fertility treatments work.

I know not all treatments work the first time especially if there is an underlying problem that isn’t seen through blood tests and ultrasounds.  If you are at this stage, you will need to decide who are you going to tell and when.

How early should you tell others about your pregnancy?

We were four weeks along when we found out we were pregnant.  Finding out this early, makes getting to certain milestone weeks feel like an eternity.

We had to decide if we were going to wait through the first trimester to tell anyone because anything can change in the blink of an eye at any point during pregnancy but especially during the first trimester.

When should you tell immediate family you are pregnant?

I let my husband decide when we would tell our parents mostly because he was so excited, and I knew he wanted to tell someone.  I bet you can guess what he decided based on that sentence. 😊

Side note: it was actually a year ago to the day I am writing this we told our family.  My husband didn’t want to keep it a secret from the family.

My husband and I told our family at 4 weeks.  We made it clear that it was EXTREMELY early and anything could still happen.

We did not allow our parents to tell anyone else until we gave them the green light.

Not only was this our news to tell, but it was just too early to tell more than family.

Why is 12 weeks safe to announce pregnancy?

I call the 12 week mark the “safe zone”. The “safe zone” is usually the end of the first trimester when the risk of miscarriage goes down.

There is always a risk of anything during pregnancy, but your chances of a miscarriage go way down the further into pregnancy you get.

This of course depends on you and your particular situation.

Should you wait for the “safe zone” to tell you are pregnant?

You have to decide what is best for you.

If you have had multiple miscarriages, maybe, you wait for the “safe zone”.

Is this your first pregnancy? Maybe, you are too excited to hold it in, and you let the whole world know before the “safe zone”.

I am not against telling early due to excitement because this is what we did.

But I would be sure to understand and make it clear to whomever you tell that it is still early and anything can happen.

If you are a pregnancy pro, you know what you are doing and depending on the age of your other children it might be hard to keep it a secret.

Document the moment no matter when you decide to share the news.

Once we had our appointment to confirm the pregnancy, I called a photographer back home in Georgia to do some pictures of us and pictures announcing our pregnancy.

We used these pictures to tell our friends who we would not see for a while.

We also used the photos to post on social media; more on this further down.

Telling Your Friends

If you are looking for an answer in this post that tells you an exact date to tell family and friends you are pregnant, this post, honestly, isn’t for you.

You have to do what feels right to you.

We struggled with infertility for 2 years, and most of our friends knew about our situation.

We waited to tell our friends until about week 10.

It was close to the “safe zone” and everything was trending in the right direction still, so we decided it was a good time.

It just so happen we were 10 weeks along.  We didn’t pick a specific week to spill the beans.

My biggest rule of thumb is if you or your doctor are even a little bit worried about miscarriage or any other kind of complication; I would wait until the “safe zone” to tell anyone you are pregnant.

When should you Announce on Social Media

When you are struggling with infertility, you are very cognizant of all of the pregnancy announcements, first birthdays, birth announcements, etc.  You in return try to be aware when making your own announcement.

I wanted so much to tell my whole Facebook world, but I felt guilty because our treatments had worked.

Now, we would be those people announcing our pregnancy in the face of some one who could be struggling.

I am tearing up as I write this.

I want nothing but to empower and give hope; for some of us this life is possible, and for others, it is beyond heartbreaking because your future might look different now.

There are no easy answers, and I didn’t want to flaunt our success in anyone’s face.

I eventually posted to Facebook and Instagram making it a point to bring attention to our struggle and that this was a wonderful miracle.

We were 20 weeks along before I made this post.  I did this in hopes of starting conversations about infertility.

Long story short, you can post to social media whenever you are ready because the most important people will already know.

When to tell you are pregnant is a big decision, that is only best decided between you and your significant other

In the end, it is up to you when you tell your friends, family, and the world.

You will find places that say to wait until you are 12 weeks or later because you are out of the “safe zone”.

Some people like to make it to 8 weeks then tell everyone.

Only you know what is best for you and your significant other.

We told our family a little earlier than I would have liked.

However, our doctor did tell us the way my numbers were trending a miscarriage wasn’t likely.  This is great news to hear but you can never say never.  We rolled the dice, and it was a wonderful experience.

If you have decided you are ready to announce your pregnancy, there are some easy ways you can announce your pregnancy from the comfort of your home, and they will hardly cost you a thing.


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When did you tell your family and friends, tell me in the comments below?

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